The Spiritual Side of Sex

It's not a very popular position to wait until marriage before having sex, either for the first time or for the next time. Abstinence comes with so much prejudices and stigma, and it's not always easy.

As Christians, and growing up in the Church, we heard it all the time. Don' have sex before marriage. Sex before marriage is bad/wrong/sinful/etc. And many Christians question that. We want to direct you to this short Q&A from Focus on the Family. They have a great answer we agree with.

Where does the Bible say that pre-marital sex is wrong?

We love the very first paragraph.

it’s easy for critics and skeptics to argue that the Bible has nothing to say about pre-marital sex. That’s because they’re usually looking for negative statements. They want a “condemnation” or a “thou shalt not.” But the Bible expresses its perspective primarily in positive terms. 

Sex is amazing, wonderful, and great in the right context (marriage) because it's the closest we can ever be with someone since it makes two as one, not just physically but emotionally and spiritually. It's not hard to imagine two people being ripped apart when most people move from one relationship to another. Even in amicable breakups, there are broken hearts, hurts, anger, and insecurities that amplify if the relationship was sexual. In a world that puts premarital and casual sex on a pedestal, we say enough is enough.

God has an amazing plan for you if you accept it. This plan includes your love life and your sexual activity. But we need to allow Him to unfold that plan in His perfect time. It's a choice between what you can do and what God can do in your life.